Why does change freak us out when things are always happening For Us, Not to Us?
Usually the first step to change is releasing the drama, which I am guessing is a large part of the ‘do not want’ section if you have done the Dream Manifestation Exercise. This can appear as a person, place or thing that keeps you anchored in the old way of being you are wishing to transcend. By releasing the drama in our lives, we can listen better and have more energy to run our own race, rise above and accomplish our Soul’s Destiny. That is why during Spiritual Growth, the Universe will take away the old to make way for the new. It might feel like the rug is being pulled out from under you, but if you want to be an Eagle, you cannot be hanging out in the chicken coop, you want to be souring above the mundane with the Eagles and Great Spirit Condor.
Choosing drama keeps us in the muck or ashes, because if we focus on the imperfections of others, then we don’t have to address or deal with our own. (Which ironically is usually one and the same.) It is our judgment of self, through judgment of others that distracts us from our goal of loving and being loved.
People come in for a reading or a healing and they complain about their family, boss, in-laws or their significant other, etc. and no matter what the problem is, they are victims of their circumstances and it is everyone else’s fault. They totally miss that they are the common denominator—until they change, nothing changes.
We can only control our side of the street. Usually when we choose to be and speak love, those around us usually become more loving. If we choose to be and focus on how we are victimized (or whatever archetype/drama you are playing out), then the Universe will continue to bring that dynamic in until you break that cycle and heal it.
We say we want love, yet sometimes our actions, thoughts and emotions speak anything but. We say we want to break the patterns, yet we keep consciously choosing the same old same old and are frustrated because we’re expecting different results even as you’re falling off the "crazy cliff." Like Einstein says, "the definition of crazy is doing the same thing over and over, expecting different results.”
We are the common denominator of our problems – whether we realize it or not. If we are steeped in total unawareness or stagnation, the Universe does for us what we are unwilling to do for ourselves. The energy becomes explosive and things become so unbearable we have to surrender and except the inevitable change – whether we want to or not.
As a human species, change seems to freak us out which dulls our intuitive senses. Sometimes we need to have the rug pulled out from under us to bring about the positive change our soul’s growth desires and our Spiritual growth’s goals insist upon. Because not listening to our heart’s journey leaves us feeling exhausted or sick, spiritually, emotionally, mentally; the culmination eventually manifesting via disease or dis-ease physically. If we are still not willing to change, Spirit will create an illness, injury, accident, move, death, loss or trauma, dis-ease, or disease (or however it is appearing in your life) to make you stop, listen, and come back to center.